Disclaimer… if you’re a man and this statement pisses you off a bit, you may want to read on and learn a thing or two. If you’re a man and nodding your head and smiling, you know what’s up already; got any plans later?
This is a statement that has always resonated with me and we see this more and more as women in this country take their rightful places in positions of power. We ask ourselves why a woman in charge is labeled a bitch why a man is simply a boss. Why a woman in leadership is overstepping while a man is stepping his way up. The glass ceiling is breaking and my dream is that my daughters can look down on the framework of that bullshit ceiling and raise a glass to all of us that helped push them through.
Clearly, this is all about resisting the urge to be invisible. We will no longer be invisible. For example, I don’t walk into a room, I usually strut. I am not a meek little flower, I am a fire cracker who uses profanity at will and am usually the voice heard from across the room telling an off color joke, flirting shamelessly or laughing with a group of people who are a lot like me. Because make no mistake, I surround myself with women just like me. You foxes know who you are.
My daughters once told me they were way more afraid of me than their dad and I will admit, that gave me more than a little pride. Now, before you go clutching your pearls, know that I am not some tyrant to my children. They are simply fully aware of the fact that I am a force to be reckoned with. When I say something, I mean it. It’s pretty easy to know when I am pissed.
Once when having a, shall we say, disagreement with the father of one of my daughters’s friends, this little man (boy) attempted to put me in my “place” by telling me that perhaps he should “speak with my husband about the issue.” Clearly, this little man did not know who was in charge in my household.
The reason for the disagreement stemmed from this joker’s attempt to intimidate my daughter. I was having none of it, as I am sure you can imagine.
As I am sure you can imagine, he did not get to speak with my spouse, but was instead treated to a laugh so hearty and loud that it startled him so much that he never spoke to me again. Good. That man was a 250 lb BOY and clearly could not handle being stood up to.
So men, if you encounter a woman who is strong, determined, noisy, assertive, smart, capable and VISIBLE, you’ve found a rare treasure. She likely does not need you, but she sure as hell could want you. And that might make you the luckiest man around.
Ne-Yo sang it best in his song “Miss Independent.” Go google it if you don’t believe me. Be a boss. Be the kind of woman that can do for herself. Be the most bad-ass version of yourself that you can be. Resist invisible.
Resist Invisible 